UPDATE: This post has been so wildly popular that I did a whole poll of my blog readers, The “Lovies” and asked to hear YOUR FAVORITE Christmas traditions. I added all 30+ ideas to this new blog post on Christmas Traditions from before Christmas up until Christmas Day.
Pressure. Sometimes that’s what comes to mind when you think of starting new traditions as a newlywed. You’ve always had your own traditions with your family for the holidays and your husband has always had his own traditions. In a season with a lot of hype behind it and perfectly wrapped gifts, as well as a million Pinterest crafts that your neighbor seems to whip out with no problem, the pressure becomes real. Let me rest your mind and help you figure out how to start new traditions for your new family unit of two!
How to Start New Christmas Traditions for Couples:
- Give up on perfect. It just doesn’t happen regardless of how much your friends, family, and neighbors are fooling you with their Instagram or Facebook photos.You don’t have to do every traditional thing your family did and his family did before. Figure out what’s comfortable for you.
- Hang onto what’s important. If you know your husband loves Peanut Butter Blossom Cookies (speaking from experience here), choose to still make those for him so it feels special and he knows you thought of him, perfect way to start your new Christmas Traditions for couples. If your family always goes together to the Christmas Eve service, go together with all family members if possible!
- Sit down and talk about what’s important before the week of Christmas! If you aren’t aware Christmas doesn’t feel like Christmas to your hubs without him seeing A Charlie Brown Christmas, you won’t know it bothers him when you decide to watch Pretty Little Liars on Hulu instead of watching it with him! Each of you should take a moment and talk about what things you love to do each holiday season to make sure you can fit in those things that are most important.
- Let it happen! Seriously, the planner in me sometimes has to be reminded to just let the natural things occur. If it turns out that you end up eating leftover pizza for Christmas breakfast and it sticks, well guess what?, that’s awesome! Because it’s something unique to you two and builds a memory and something to pass down to your children one day.
Some of my personal favorite Christmas traditions for couples or families:
-Going to get our Real tree as a couple and decorating it while listening to Christmas music, OBVIOUSLY! This was actually one of our first disagreements! Should we go real or fake? Luckily, I won him over. 😉
-Christmas Eve service with the family we’re with that year. My in-law’s live in Indiana. My family lives here in Birmingham, AL.
-Our new tradition is eating Chinese food after Christmas Eve service since the one we like is one of the few restaurants open this night. In Indiana, we do appetizers after the service.
-Random act of kindness: Whether it be something simple like leaving a quarter in the Aldi buggy holder or collecting cans in your neighbors for the needy, it really gets you in the spirit!
-Getting ornaments from the places we travel or ornaments that have our life events from the year to go on our tree. It’s like a scrapbook coming to life in the form of your Christmas tree!
-Christmas Date Night: Getting coffee and driving around while listening to Christmas music looking at lights in Homewood. You can see my post about it here.
-Watching a Charlie Brown Christmas (the hubs’ favorite) and The Grinch.
-Eating my momma’s cornbread dressing, sweet potato casserole, and having a coconut cake on Christmas Day! When my nanna was able to, she used to bake a regular coconut cake and then a mini one we used as Jesus’ birthday cake!
-Baking cookies and fudge with my mom and sister and serving the hubs his favorite ones.
*And don’t let all the trivial things get in the way! At the end of the day, if you have no new Christmas traditions for couples that’s ok too! The most important thing about that day has already been accomplished 2,000 years ago when Jesus was born!
Your turn! What are your favorite Christmas traditions for couples?